Matt Alber’s “Handsome Man” Video Premieres on Accidental Bear Today! Watch Here



Rise and shine internet! This may be the nearest you ever get to rolling around in bed and morning coffee with the amazingly talented singer-songwriter Matt Alber. This morning Matt premiers his new, sexy with charming all over it, music video for “Handsome Man” off of his new album Wind Sand Stars on Accidental Bear. (Find album HERE)

Now go enjoy and share the video below of one of the top queer artists performing in the world today!

Any who reposts this A/B feature to Facebook and leaves a comment “I shared it” and tags Accidental Bear in comment is entered to receive a free signed copy of the album on CD & Vinyl (There will be 3 winners!!)

Be sure to watch video in HD to see all of the stunning details.

Check out fun Q & A with Matt Alber below where he gives us all of the sweaty details behind the “Handsome Man” Music video.

What is the story going on in this new video for “Handsome Man?”

Well, there’s always room for interpretation, but I see this as the story of two guys who find the spark of love the morning after a pivotal sleepover. Maybe they’ve jut been hooking up until now, keeping things casual. But something changes when neither of them wants the morning to end. One of the fellas hides a love-note for the other on the back of a photo-strip, and when the other one finds it… well, it’s ON!


You’re the one who wrote the song and also co-stars in the video, yet you’re speaking about the characters in the third person. Are you playing a character or are you playing yourself in this video?

When I started out on this project I was single and playing a character in a story I’ve been wanting to see on the screen. I see a fair share of gay humor, drama and gay sex in the media , but I’m hard-pressed to find moments like these on the screen. (Thank God LOOKING is finally here.) But being single and navigating a healthy sex-life can be tricky. I’ve definitely had varying degrees of success at it. I guess in the back of my mind I’m always hoping I’ll run into Mr. Right when I’m hooking up. Someone who will want me to spend the night, stay up late sipping whiskey, smoking joints, making fun of Party Of Five and then want me to stick around in the morning, skipping school, goofing around under the sheets and kissing like you mean it. 

So did something change for you personally during the project? Did you fall in love with your co-star? And by the way, WHO IS HE and do you have any nudes? (wink wink)

Ah, Alan… What a babe, huh? We met on SCRUFF a few years ago and have stayed great pals. He even wrote the opening line of my song “Spectacularly”– he’s one heck of a poet. I asked him to play opposite me because I knew we’d have good chemistry. He flew down from Seattle to do the shoot and we had blast. He brought a ton of good ideas to the table and some damn fine acting if you ask me. I’ve always had a crush on him, but that’s not how the story goes. 


Well Mr. Alber, are you gonna tell us how it goes? Give me the dirt!

I’ll tell ya a little. About a month after we shot the video for Handsome Man, I met this amazing guy on Scruff who, long story short, wanted me to stick around. We started sleeping over and wasting the mornings away laughing and kissing under the sheets. We decided to open up to each other and start telling each other our deep dark secrets. Neither of us flinched. When he learned I was working on a music video, he offered to help me edit it. It slowly dawned on us both that the story taking shape our iMacs was happening for us. How about that, huh?


Accidental Bear Love! I’d say you owe the good people at SCRUFF a letter.

Well, he’s more of a Prairie dog. And yes, I already sent my letter to SCRUFF!


Well, congratulations Matt the video results are stunning! I am going to crawl back in to bed and watch this on repeat!

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  1. Charlie said:

    Half-way thru the video I was going to say. “You can fix me breakfast anytime” but towards the end I really got emotional. A skipped heartbeat, a tear or two and a tightness in my chest. Simply put- beautiful. Yhanks, Matt . You never ceise to amaze.

    • Anonymous said:

      Hey Charlie! Well I had a ton of help from some incredible men. Alan, my co-star. Heath (the coolest straight camera-man in San Francisoc) and my sweet guy Aaron who stitched it all together so beautifully. =)

    • Mike Wayne said:

      Thanks again Matt, Your music has been so inspirational for me. I have gotten to see you preform a few time and have all your CD’s, and Enjoy everything about you. I too have a Handsome man in my life, his name is Paul, we met on a Sunday Gay Pride 2013 in SF. We listen to your music together, the first time was in a cabin at Fern Grove at thee Russian River, it was our first weekend together, It was our first time truly connecting, we made love, we laughed, we cried, we held one another tight, it was the most wonderful time. I just sent him this new video :). We love what your doing, keep it up. Sincerly, Mike

  2. Matt Alber said:

    @ Charlie: My heart is skipping beats too, man. So glad to hear you feel all the heart and soul that went into this little jewel.

  3. Tom Reidy said:

    (Friend of Jay Redd) I sat enraptured at your performance at Lincoln Center. This is just beautiful!! Thank you

  4. criquaer said:

    I shared it on f/b, twitter, G+, tumblr & linkedIN – I want all my friends & acquaintances to become acquainted with the terribly talented Matt Alber. Always better to share the love… %)))

  5. Bruce Jamison-LeGere said:

    Beautiful, Matt. Strikes the right balance of happiness and that feeling of new love. Reminds me of me and my hubby’s courting days.

    I’m bummed we’ll miss you when you’re in Portland this month. 🙁

  6. Thiago said:

    Beautiful. The song has been on my playlists since it debuted on Google Play Music. This will be another End of the World for me. Playing on repeat. Shared everywhere. I’d love to see you perform live one of these days.

  7. Ferdiad said:

    “I shared it” 🙂

    So many things to like about this song and this video.

      • Ferdiad said:

        A friend just commented on my fb share:

        ‘It’s truly the first time I have seen “non-straight sexuality” portrayed in a beautiful, feeling & human way, gonna share it with my gay stepson, may he be as touched as me.
        My sincere and heartfelt thanks to you for sharing this’

        Can’t help wondering what would have been different if guys my age would have grown up seeing music videos like this.

  8. Shawn said:

    I shared it. Beautiful song and video. Thank you, Matt for continuing to tell universal stories of Love and hope that give voice to our desires and dreams.

  9. Dave Carter said:

    Another Winner Matt! I posted it on FB for my friends to find. I know they’ll see love through a different perspective (Most of my friends here are straight; but love is love.)

    • Matt Alber said:

      Thanks Dave! You can tell your friends that it was shot by a wonderful straight camera man named Heath if you’d like =).

  10. Martin said:

    This is very beautiful… very touching.. and WE NEED MORE of these.. It brought me a tear…


  11. joe t said:

    Wonderfully written and beautifully told….What does the note say? I can’t quite see it? Handsome men both of you!

  12. Faz said:

    Really great song Matt, I keep missing your performances when you come to Bristol! There’s that moment, when you read the back of the photo strip, that look in your eyes when you just knowIts him. That was beautiful. X

  13. Rickey Phoummany said:

    Wow! Love your voice and love this video! Can’t wait to see and hear you live Nov. 1st here in Dallas!

  14. Grant Meidal said:

    The first of many….please. I, we all, need to see ourselves in this light. We all long for it, but can give up hope of finding it or having it again.
    So lovely. thx Matt.

  15. Rick Aiello said:

    Sigh. Matt… you’ve done it again. Crying at my desk at work. Wishing I could find that handsome man. Been hoping I’d find him for many years now… and nothing yet. Someday. Hopefully. 🙂

    • Anonymous said:

      Heya Rick! They come ’round when you least expect it in my experience. Thanks for taking the time to watch and write in.

  16. Sean said:

    I shared it! Matt Alber always gets the romance in his videos right… *sigh*

  17. Stu said:

    We have bears, cubs, otters, and now Prairie Dogs? This isn’t a gay community, it’s a fucking zoo! What the hell is a Prairie Dog?

    • Anonymous said:

      Oh, it’s just code for the sweet fella who lights up my life. That’s all.

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  19. Jesse said:

    Good job, guys. Important to represent more than just the usual gay stereotypes in media and this fits the bill perfectly. Any thoughts about doing a video for New York City (my favorite track on Wind Sand Stars)?

  20. Montgomery said:

    Loved this. It brought tears to my eyes each of the several times I watched it. Thank you for such a beautiful portrayal of two people truly connecting. Great job!

  21. Beau said:

    I shared it ;-).
    I’ve been following your music since I came across “End of the World”. I fell in love with the romance and shared it with my best buddy (straight) at the time. I was going through a divorce at the time and coming back out. He was surprised at the romance in the video (assuming all gay men are just looking for a lifetime of hook ups). I wrote you a note at the time and you kindly responded. Still looking for “more”. Thanks for keeping the romance alive.
    (PS we share a mutual friend in NYC… David M, songwriter and arranger 😉

  22. Glen said:

    Matt, what a wonderful feeling! I can tell you are in the “courting” phase and it is a wonderful thing!! Thank you for sharing! Your new song and video is beautiful, heart-felt, and emotional for me. I’ve been in love with your music since you released “End of the World.” That was the first time an artist expressed something that was what I wanted and longed for, I regained a sense of hope then. Now, me and my partner Lynn have been together almost 4 years. This new video made me think of our whirlwind courting days. It made me smile and cry at the same time. Thank you again! God Bless!! I know you will have GREAT success with your new album!

  23. Jason (Jdawgie) Loper said:


    I have been following you for quite awhile now, always missing opportunities to see you perform in person. This song to me was so heart-felt to me , it touched that soft spot in me.. and I started to cry. It gives me hope that one day my “Handsome Man” will find me! Thank you so much for sharing your voice and talent with us thru all the music you have produced. I hope one day I will get the opportnity to hear you perform. In Harmony- Jason

  24. ronen said:

    your singing really touched my heart. you got yourself a fan 🙂 . definitely going to look for your cds.

  25. Todd said:

    The song is beautiful and intimate much like the video. We see so much sex on both the TV and movie screens. Nothing wrong with that. But it’s rare that we get to see gay intimacy that feels raw and honest with a dash of romance. Well done to all involved.

  26. Dave said:

    Love all your music but this….nothing less than stunning and spectacular…Incredible filming as well…..Good job Matt!!!

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  28. Charles said:

    Great video and the music is perfect to the video, I would like to see more like this, BEAR HUGS.

  29. Emmanuel said:

    This is the first time I hear one of your songs and I fell in love with it. Such a great and sweet voice. And the lyric was beautiful, of course.

  30. Jern said:

    I shared it! Loved the beautiful video and gorgeous music; here’s to hoping this will be my story one day!

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