10 Responses to “Gay Men and Body Image: It’s Time for a Revolution”

  1. Design wolf says:

    Let me just lose 10 more pounds around my belly and gain 15 in my arms and shoulders, and I’m with you!

  2. Wopah says:

    Being diligent working out and regimented is a good thing. While it’s not ok to be judging those who are larger, more people need to embrace a healthier lifestyle and focus more on keeping their better in better overall condition.

  3. Yi says:

    I’m with you brother..now you just have to set up your ad filters ban the to screen out the ads showing chiselled men in underwear and other scantily clad muscle guys that appear alongside this post..

  4. Andre says:

    Great article! Thanks for bringing this topic to light……I’m a short-ish, ginger-ish, fit but not ripped (thickly muscled I guess), fair skinned 46 year old proud gay man that looks best with a couple days facial growth but not the genetics for a full beard or chest hair (Whew…) Having said all that…I’m happy with myself but don’t seem to fit into ANY known category the gay world has created to divide us. I’m not ripped and tan Chelsea, I’m not a bear, I’m not femme, and I’m not a twink. I’m not even the new hybrid of unshaven muscle-guy…the muscle bear. I’ve lived my whole life intermixing between all groups and I’m happy to say that I have friends from each one…I really wish the gay community would drop the foolish labels and borders. We need to unite as a community and face the real threat…the fanatical Right…Dropping these labels really is the best way to have a full social life of great guys (and gals) AND be a powerhouse that is taken seriously…

  5. jamieson says:

    Wrote an album about this very thing called “Circuit Hoe”. Such a shame that not only have we added our own pressures physically ..but now classified ourselves into stereotypical subcategories to even further our isolation. Authenticity…get some …it is super infectious :)

  6. Kegan says:

    Hello, my name is Kegan. I’m gay, and my body is great just the way that it is. I don’t have a six-pack, I’ve never had a tan, and I don’t go to the gym, but I love the way that I look, and I want you to love the way that you look, too.

    Thanks Jacob.

  7. Kevin says:

    Interesting article but I disagree completely with some parts.

    Yes – I think it’s a great think for people to address their insecurities and know they shouldn’t be ashamed of how they look/dress etc.
    No – I don’t think we “try and make the world love us through our bodies”

    “when we come out, we vow to never be outsiders again; we vow to look perfect and be strong, because we’re going to show the world that we’re not outcasts”

    I think there are a lot of muscled, gym toned, bearded gays out there because they are masculine characteristics. That’s why I have a beard and keep myself fit, because I’m gay, i’m attracted to masculinity. Also, don’t underestimate the ‘being healthy and keeping fit’ aspect of why people work out. This image of masculinity isn’t a current trend though, look at the Greek god Adonis, the god of beauty and desire. It’s the same reason why many women have long hair, and want big tits…. to emphasise their gender and make themselves feel more attractive.

    If some gays don’t feel like they fit in, because they look different, then they need to address their insecurities right? So well done for trying to address that, but I certainly don’t think there’s any blame required for the fit and healthy gays who look how they do because they want to.

  8. Deryck says:

    Hey. Good article and yes people deal with their insecurities in many varied, constructive and destructive behavioural patterns.
    I personally take my ques from what I like. Took a long time to get there but so worth it!
    I go to gym, I do yoga, IP’m vegan and finally I’m truly happy with who I am. Except for my job…… But that’s another story!
    I’m a decent looking, acting guy and that’s what I want from my prospective partner. I don’t let anyone dictate to me what is or isn’t cool, desirable or trendy.
    My motto: make your own choices, decisons, glorious mistakes and don’t drag others down with you or get dragged down by others.

  9. Michael says:

    Great article and very positive message. A little concerned with the comments though, I think some people got a bit too defensive. The article is not shaming muscle guys (you don’t need to apologize for being fit) it is saying that forcing everyone into one mold is unhealthy in a different way. Being unashamed of who you are in all respects is a good thing. (That said I can also imagine some gay men using the Lady Gaga campaign for alterior motives in a Grindr-esque/instagram vanity showcase.) But let’s curb the drama and support each other.

    • Kevin says:

      Hi Michael, my comments were defensive because the article referred to peoples self-esteem being effected in a “traumatic” way by “standards imposed on my body by the gay community”… (which apparently causes eating disorders). It also addresses gay men to “stop trying to make the world love us through our bodies”.

      The intentions of the article are commendable, but I think it completely missed the mark with the direction it chose to take. It should have focused more on addressing peoples perceptions of these body standards, getting them to see that these body standards don’t exist. All it’s done is throw fuel on the fire by telling people with low self esteem that those standards exist and to unite against them. Body/image standards don’t exist, and they certainly aren’t imposed on peoples bodies by the gay community.

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